tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2377774445277142984.post7636723705301474338..comments2015-02-15T09:04:06.070-05:00Comments on Accepting the Unexpected: Merry Christmas?Mrs. Unexpectedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17357790358558192352noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2377774445277142984.post-90826063111745604292010-12-21T00:06:07.830-05:002010-12-21T00:06:07.830-05:00I'm sorry you are having such a rough time and...I'm sorry you are having such a rough time and family etc. does not seem to realize that you need some space to grieve.<br /><br />It sounds to me also like you may be in depression ... I am there myself, and I recognize some similarties to what's going on with me. I hope you have access to medical care and/or counselling if you want to that. Sometimes it helps to be able to say anything you want to a counsellor. And sometimes they have good advice for you too.<br /><br />As for Christmas - can you stay at hotel? are there things you can do to give yourself a break and get away? <br /><br />I hope you can muster up the energy to get your hubby a gift. I know my dh would be very much hurt if I didn't get him some thing (though that may not be the case for your dh, perhaps it wouldn't worry him at all). I was tryhing to think of a safe kid-free place to shop but nothing occurs to me at all. Not even the liquor store is sacred. Hmm, maybe a naughty adult shop would guarantee freedom from kids ????<br /><br />I hope you don't mind me sharing these thoughts. Whatever you decide to do, know that I am thinking of you and hoping things get better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2377774445277142984.post-17319938561821058232010-12-20T17:07:24.253-05:002010-12-20T17:07:24.253-05:00(((Hugs))) That sounds more like torture than cele...(((Hugs))) That sounds more like torture than celebration to me. I don't know what your relationship with these relatives is, but maybe you could find a diplomatic way to let them know that you wish you could be happy for them, but seeing your SIL's belly and talking about her pregnancy reminds you of what you don't have/lost and then you feel really sad (not to mention envious).<br /><br />Of course, my personal solution this year has simply been to avoid family all together, but that may not be an option for you . . . <br /><br />I hope you find a way to make it through without too much emotional pain.Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05614983212919126632noreply@blogger.com